Comments on: the mystery of friendship http://bethanyactually.com/the-mystery-of-friendship/ Thu, 24 May 2012 02:07:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 By: OMSH http://bethanyactually.com/the-mystery-of-friendship/comment-page-1/#comment-6086 OMSH Thu, 21 May 2009 21:05:45 +0000 http://bethanyactually.com/?p=1436#comment-6086 Oh, people like because of Jeff or because they don't know me. I'm truly a pain in the rear. Most of the time. Maybe that's why everyone takes me out for margaritas! It takes the edge off! HA! Oh, people like because of Jeff or because they don’t know me. I’m truly a pain in the rear. Most of the time. Maybe that’s why everyone takes me out for margaritas! It takes the edge off! HA!

]]> By: OMSH http://bethanyactually.com/the-mystery-of-friendship/comment-page-1/#comment-6085 OMSH Thu, 21 May 2009 21:04:28 +0000 http://bethanyactually.com/?p=1436#comment-6085 You tell Troy he plagiarized. *wink* I have no idea why I love you. Bwahahaha! Nah, I do. There are several characteristics I like, but mostly, you're fun and easy to be with. And by the way, I like strong and opinionated. :) You're like a girl Jeff. How can I not love that? You tell Troy he plagiarized. *wink*

I have no idea why I love you. Bwahahaha! Nah, I do. There are several characteristics I like, but mostly, you’re fun and easy to be with. And by the way, I like strong and opinionated. :)

You’re like a girl Jeff. How can I not love that?

]]> By: Erin http://bethanyactually.com/the-mystery-of-friendship/comment-page-1/#comment-6043 Erin Mon, 18 May 2009 23:26:58 +0000 http://bethanyactually.com/?p=1436#comment-6043 Joe, Is Bethany's late night giddiness really what drives you crazy? We need to talk! Joe, Is Bethany’s late night giddiness really what drives you crazy? We need to talk!

]]> By: Kuky http://bethanyactually.com/the-mystery-of-friendship/comment-page-1/#comment-6007 Kuky Fri, 15 May 2009 21:31:30 +0000 http://bethanyactually.com/?p=1436#comment-6007 No, you're not alone. I wonder that too, what people could see of interest in me. Why they would want to get to know me better. And it always baffles me when it's someone from the internet. I don't have a massive inferiority complex either but I just don't get it. No, you’re not alone. I wonder that too, what people could see of interest in me. Why they would want to get to know me better. And it always baffles me when it’s someone from the internet. I don’t have a massive inferiority complex either but I just don’t get it.

]]> By: margalit http://bethanyactually.com/the-mystery-of-friendship/comment-page-1/#comment-6006 margalit Fri, 15 May 2009 19:58:55 +0000 http://bethanyactually.com/?p=1436#comment-6006 I can tell you why I love you. I think you're an AMAZING mother, the kind of mom I wished I had and wished I would be. Your relationship with Annalie is so remarkable, you have filled her with a love of art and design and fun. I am awed by your parenting skills. You're kind and generous, you're patient and you think carefully about what it important and go with that over being impulsive. That's real thoughtfulness. You have a great sense of humor, you are a WONDERFUL friend, you are a loving family member, you don't argue with anyone.... I'm with MrActually. I'd marry you too! I can tell you why I love you. I think you’re an AMAZING mother, the kind of mom I wished I had and wished I would be. Your relationship with Annalie is so remarkable, you have filled her with a love of art and design and fun. I am awed by your parenting skills. You’re kind and generous, you’re patient and you think carefully about what it important and go with that over being impulsive. That’s real thoughtfulness. You have a great sense of humor, you are a WONDERFUL friend, you are a loving family member, you don’t argue with anyone…. I’m with MrActually. I’d marry you too!

]]> By: bethany actually http://bethanyactually.com/the-mystery-of-friendship/comment-page-1/#comment-5999 bethany actually Fri, 15 May 2009 04:02:53 +0000 http://bethanyactually.com/?p=1436#comment-5999 <strong>Awwww! I think you're looking at me with loving eyes, because I know I am guilty of all of those things sometimes. But thanks, babe!</strong> Awwww! I think you’re looking at me with loving eyes, because I know I am guilty of all of those things sometimes. But thanks, babe!

]]> By: MrActually http://bethanyactually.com/the-mystery-of-friendship/comment-page-1/#comment-5998 MrActually Fri, 15 May 2009 03:37:40 +0000 http://bethanyactually.com/?p=1436#comment-5998 Let's see, you are patient, kind, don't envy, don't boast, are not proud, not rude, not self-seeking, not easily angered, don't keep a record of wrongs, don't delight in evil, you rejoice with the truth, protect, trust, hope, and persevere. Who, in their right mind, would not want to be your friend? Heck, I was your friend, but couldn't settle for that. I had to marry you! Let’s see, you are patient, kind, don’t envy, don’t boast, are not proud, not rude, not self-seeking, not easily angered, don’t keep a record of wrongs, don’t delight in evil, you rejoice with the truth, protect, trust, hope, and persevere. Who, in their right mind, would not want to be your friend? Heck, I was your friend, but couldn’t settle for that. I had to marry you!

]]> By: BeachMama http://bethanyactually.com/the-mystery-of-friendship/comment-page-1/#comment-5994 BeachMama Fri, 15 May 2009 01:43:16 +0000 http://bethanyactually.com/?p=1436#comment-5994 I often ponder this too, especially when I have a disagreement with someone. I start to wonder or question if I am a good friend or why certain people are my friend while others are not. Like you, I feel confident in myself and find I need to remind myself of this at certain times. I recently had a disagreement with someone and into the second conversation with her, I realized that she was trying to bring me down because of her own insecurities and it was originally working (her bringing me down)until I came to that realization. I am a good person, I try to give and take equally with friends. I know I have flaws and try to work on them constantly. I have always said, I don't have many many friends, but the friends I have, I have for a reason. And this still holds true as many of my friendships have lasted for over 15 years. I often ponder this too, especially when I have a disagreement with someone. I start to wonder or question if I am a good friend or why certain people are my friend while others are not.

Like you, I feel confident in myself and find I need to remind myself of this at certain times.

I recently had a disagreement with someone and into the second conversation with her, I realized that she was trying to bring me down because of her own insecurities and it was originally working (her bringing me down)until I came to that realization. I am a good person, I try to give and take equally with friends. I know I have flaws and try to work on them constantly.

I have always said, I don’t have many many friends, but the friends I have, I have for a reason. And this still holds true as many of my friendships have lasted for over 15 years.

]]> By: Jillian http://bethanyactually.com/the-mystery-of-friendship/comment-page-1/#comment-5991 Jillian Thu, 14 May 2009 23:16:22 +0000 http://bethanyactually.com/?p=1436#comment-5991 I think perhaps people are friends with others because we see in them qualities that we would like to see in ourselves or that we think we ourselves possess and we admire. In a sentence or less, being friends with someone allows us to be close with people who we wish we could (partially, at least) emulate. Think about it- you wouldn't want to be friends with someone who had only horrible qualities, would you? Maybe I'm being too logical or scientific about it, I'm not getting gushy and sweet and "aww" but I guess that's just how I am. lol. I think perhaps people are friends with others because we see in them qualities that we would like to see in ourselves or that we think we ourselves possess and we admire. In a sentence or less, being friends with someone allows us to be close with people who we wish we could (partially, at least) emulate.

Think about it- you wouldn’t want to be friends with someone who had only horrible qualities, would you?

Maybe I’m being too logical or scientific about it, I’m not getting gushy and sweet and “aww” but I guess that’s just how I am. lol.

]]> By: Melissa http://bethanyactually.com/the-mystery-of-friendship/comment-page-1/#comment-5990 Melissa Thu, 14 May 2009 22:47:08 +0000 http://bethanyactually.com/?p=1436#comment-5990 Good question Bethany! My opinion is based on my observations of my own friendships. As I've gotten older, my number of friends has gotten much smaller (I'm sure this is true for lots of us) and I'm perfectly comfortable with this. For me, the friendships that have endured are those where we seem to be on the same page about what we each expect from a friend and where we can equally meet each other's friendships needs. Unfortunately, I do tend to get absorbed in my own day to day life, so I don't take the time to communicate with friends as much as I probably should. My closest friends are those that are ok with that and don't need me to call or email them on a regular basis. We can not talk for weeks sometimes even months (gasp!) on end but it doesn't matter, the next time we talk, it picks up right where we last left off. It's like we just talked yesterday. Friendships are two way streets and I believe they just work (like you said, it's magical almost ;) ) when both parties are giving and receiving in an amount that satisfies them both. Throw in some common interests and God mixing it all together and bam! You've got the recipe for friendship soup ;)! Good question Bethany! My opinion is based on my observations of my own friendships. As I’ve gotten older, my number of friends has gotten much smaller (I’m sure this is true for lots of us) and I’m perfectly comfortable with this. For me, the friendships that have endured are those where we seem to be on the same page about what we each expect from a friend and where we can equally meet each other’s friendships needs. Unfortunately, I do tend to get absorbed in my own day to day life, so I don’t take the time to communicate with friends as much as I probably should. My closest friends are those that are ok with that and don’t need me to call or email them on a regular basis. We can not talk for weeks sometimes even months (gasp!) on end but it doesn’t matter, the next time we talk, it picks up right where we last left off. It’s like we just talked yesterday.

Friendships are two way streets and I believe they just work (like you said, it’s magical almost ;) ) when both parties are giving and receiving in an amount that satisfies them both. Throw in some common interests and God mixing it all together and bam! You’ve got the recipe for friendship soup ;)!

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